In fact, rectal biopsies have found that individuals who performed enemas with tap water or soap suds show deterioration in their intestinal lining, resulting in increased susceptibility to pathogens. Enemas increase your risk of acquiring infections, including gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis and even HIV. While enemas may seem like a logical way to avoid an embarrassing interaction, I strongly advise against them. In general, men should consume 30-40 grams of fiber per day, and women should consume 25-30 grams of fiber per day.ĭue to the common fear of excrement rubbing off on one’s partner, many people perform enemas (whereby they inject liquid into the rectum) before engaging in anal sex. Fiber helps bulk up stool and decreases liquidity, further minimizing the chance of a mess. It’s also helpful to consistently eat a high fiber diet that includes foods such as whole grains, broccoli, and beans - as this regulates bowel movements and decreases the likelihood of soiling during sex. So forget the harsh scents and chemicals - before sex, simply clean the outside of the anus well in the shower or bath with plain water or a very gentle soap. In fact, chemical wipes and over wiping are the most common causes of anal itch (if you haven’t experienced this…trust me, you don’t want to).
This causes the skin around the anus to become inflamed, leading to thickening and ultimately itching or discomfort with sex. Common mistakes I see patients make include using chemical wipes (the perfumes and preservatives make them irritating) and wiping too much (friction can lead to abrasions). While maintaining anal hygiene is important, people tend to be too fastidious when it comes to cleaning up before anal intercourse.
Check out his expert advice on how to make anal sex more pleasurable: How To Prepare for Bottoming (Along With Some Common Mistakes) Joseph Terlizzi, a New York-based colon and rectal surgeon, for the lowdown on how gay and bi men can prepare, how to do the deed, and how to stay safe post-coital. When it comes to having safe and pleasurable anal sex, it’s important to know all the facts. So there you have it – the main differences between a twink and a pup for gay men.Everything you wanted to know about bottoming but were too afraid to ask. After they’ve been out awhile and been exposed to dating, apps, bars, hookups, etc – they then graduate to another classification. Remember, the defining trait for a pup is their newness to the gay world. Pups can also have body hair or be smooth. Pups can be of all body types, including slender and muscular or roundish and heavy (not the same as a gay cub). Many pups are newbies to our gay world, just taking their first few steps of self-discovery as part of coming out. In gay-speak, “pups” are fairly young (18-early 20’s) with the defining feature of having almost zero experience in the gay universe. That’s a twink subtype in case you didn’t know.įYI: Technically speaking, twinks can also be pups but they aren’t exactly the same. You see, if a twink is referred to as having pretty features, they are referred to as a glamour twink.
Many gay men mistakenly think of “Twinks” as pretty but that would be incorrect. There really isn’t a universally agreed upon construct here. Twinks are often thought of as smooth but they can also have body hair. Usually, they are in their 20’s and have boyish features. Example twink TWINK DEFINEDįor the most part, a twink is a guy who has a slender build. While I don’t pretend to be an expert, I will give you the basics of what I found out. Hey, you have to have something to talk about when you’re checking out the meat at the bar, right?Īfter we all went home that night – empty handed I might add – I started to do some research on twinks and pups.
His bit of insight then led to an hour long conversation about the larger topic of gay twinks and pups – plus a few other labels thrown in for good measure – like wolves and otters.